Note: This is the last article in a 7 post series about the 7 Laws of Living a Life on Your Terms. You can find the first 6 posts at the end of this article.
Authenticity is the final ingredient in the 7-layer dip I like to call the Laws of Living a Life on Your Terms.
Authentic living ties everything up into a nice, neat little package. It’s the glue that holds the rest of the Laws together.
The fact is, you can’t practice any of the other laws without authenticity, and you can’t live an authentic life without living by the other six laws.
However, authentic living is more than just a container for the rest of the laws. It is also a principle in and of itself.
Happiness, self-esteem, and a successful life demand harmony between what you believe, what you say you believe, and what you do. Tweet this
That’s the essence of an authentic life.
When you decide to fake reality, lie to yourself, pretend to be someone you’re not, act on convictions you don’t believe in, or force yourself to make choices in accordance to values you don’t hold, you destroy yourself.
The lies you live are far more damaging to your spirit than the lies you tell. Tweet this
When you fake reality, you are saying that you would rather delude yourself, and others, into thinking you’re someone you’re not, instead of being yourself.
The only reason you would choose to do something like this is if you thought you weren’t acceptable the way you are.
You think that you’re not good enough, or what you believe is intolerable, or how you want to behave is shameful so you hide it and pretend to be something else.
Not only are you sentencing yourself to suffer from a future of anxiety and depression, but you’re also straight up rejecting yourself.
You have looked yourself in the eyes and said that you’re not good enough. Yet you still have to live in your body and you still have to occupy the mind of an entity you’ve decided isn’t good enough.
No wonder you wander around, feeling insecure and constantly rejected.
You’re physically unable to allow anyone else to accept you because you’ve already deemed yourself unfit.
You’re cheating your mind and stripping yourself of dignity.
Why do you try to impress people you don’t respect?
Why do you agree with whatever anyone says?
Why do you say yes when what you really want to say is ‘hell no’?
These are all killers of the spirit. Little by little you chip away all of your authenticity until you can’t remember who you really were to begin with.
You’re not here to live up to someone else’s expectations.
That’s not your job. Let them live up to their own expectations.
Your job is to define yourself, and live by your own expectations. You must do this ruthlessly and without apology. There must be no hesitation, no placating, and no furtive glances around the room seeking approval.
You’re the only one who can do what you were meant to do. There is no one else in the world who can give the world what you were meant to give.
There has never existed, and there never will exist, another being such as yourself.
So light your true self on fire with passion. Live with the intention of burning brighter and hotter every day. And don’t let anyone (especially yourself) bully you into submission.